Laaltain

I Want an Answer Qari Sahab !

3 مئی، 2014

I was his phys­i­cal need. He was thir­ty years old, a man from Bangladesh who had nev­er been mar­ried. I was six years old and dur­ing our encoun­ters he was endeav­or­ing to pro­vide a com­fort­able area for my elbow to reach his “beak”. Curi­ous as I was the long and hard bone excit­ed me and I began to find excus­es to reach his beak – which he nev­er refused. After a while I was used to find myself on his laps dur­ing our com­mon Quran lessons. Between his laps he had this hard and long rod which touched and rubbed my butt. After focus­ing on this move­ment for some min­utes, his exci­ta­tion became more intense and he mourned and held my arms tight­ly. With­in those moments I was hor­ri­fied which seemed to even more stim­u­late him until he sud­den­ly released some­thing wet in my butt.

He was my Qari Sahab and he used to abuse me dai­ly – but how could I tell my par­ents? I was so scared to tell any­thing.

My par­ents, my Ammi and my Abba, both devot­ed to the Islam, pious, their char­ac­ters deter­mined by reli­gious faith; two peo­ple too eas­i­ly manip­u­lat­ed by a man of God. He was my Qari Sahab and he used to abuse me dai­ly – but how could I tell my par­ents? I was so scared to tell any­thing. Instead a dai­ly rou­tine came to its ter­ri­fy­ing exis­tence. Every day, my moth­er hand­ed him a cup of tea as a ges­ture of cour­tesy and/or reli­gious duty and while drink­ing tea he enjoyed me, or some­time after get­ting through me he enjoyed the deli­cious tea.

From that time onwards men start­ed to be the main pro­tag­o­nists in my fan­tasies. While grow­ing up I allowed dif­fer­ent men to abuse my body. Ini­tial­ly I began to explore my fan­tasies with the ser­vant of our neigh­bors. While the time was pass­ing I was tak­ing greater risks – dur­ing a pic­nic with my fam­i­ly I got to know a for­eign Pash­tun and also the father of one of my class fel­lows showed more than usu­al inter­est in me. How­ev­er, all the jour­neys and expe­ri­ences final­ly led into my first time when I was nine­teen.

Peo­ple like me are every­where: in Masjids, in uni­ver­si­ties, in parks, in the Imam Bar­gah, just every­where! And although I’m from the depth of my heart a Mus­lim, I love my Allah, my Deen, I’m a Momin, I’m part of this soci­ety, I can’t fig­ure out what is wrong.

I tried a lot. I’m help­less and simul­ta­ne­ous­ly I’m to some extent com­fort­able with it. Although I stopped all kind of phys­i­cal rela­tions, I can’t stop think­ing. I tried a lot. A great, black beard is now cov­er­ing my face. Reli­gion may hide my pref­er­ences from me, or maybe it is just me using reli­gion as an escape from real­i­ty. But oth­er exits didn’t func­tion. My mar­riage failed because I sup­pressed myself and there­by wasn’t able to express my feel­ings open­ly. How should that have been pos­si­ble any­way? But if I could make peo­ple under­stand my emo­tions it would facil­i­tate many things. Now, my career and my men­tal con­di­tion suf­fer and it will end in a dis­as­ter if things do not change. My fam­i­ly already believes that I’m under a spell or that I’m haunt­ed. What an irony. I need some­one to whom I can talk open­ly – a coun­selor, psy­chi­a­trist or psy­chother­a­pist – any­one pro­fes­sion­al but I’m in a finan­cial crunch and not able to afford it.

Nev­er­the­less, I’m not the only one feel­ing that way. Peo­ple like me are every­where: in Masjids, in uni­ver­si­ties, in parks, in the Imam Bar­gah, just every­where! And although I’m from the depth of my heart a Mus­lim, I love my Allah, my Deen, I’m a Momin, I’m part of this soci­ety, I can’t fig­ure out what is wrong. Why are oth­er Pak­ista­nis threat­en­ing me, call­ing me a sin­ner despite the fact that I’m total­ly help­less? Does the fact not count at all that peo­ple around me com­mit major sins which direct­ly hurt oth­ers while I just feel good and want to feel good with­out hurt­ing any­one? How can love and desire be such a wrong thing when it does not harm any­one?

6 Responses

  1. its heart touch­ing some­times i want to shout at the dou­ble stan­dard of soci­ety that enjoys it but do not accept it all i want is an accep­tance noth­ing else.i am thank­ful to u guys to raise the voice.

  2. This above sto­ry is based on malafide inten­tions.. and just to gain some world­ly posi­tion by oppos­ing reli­gion, par­tic­u­lar­ly Islam…and writer also failed to main­tain bal­ance in his story.…in fact, i observed that most of the peo­ple who are attached with Laal­tain have spe­cif­ic agen­da of oppos­ing Islam…they dont know that they are being used by oth­er people…i would request all of them not to sell moral val­ues and your religion..and rather try to make bet­ter sys­tem here..contribute in a good way..you know reli­gion is not new in this world..and it is not going to be fin­ished by your vogue stances…just try to serve human­i­ty and try to become a good human.

  3. i am quite sur­prised to read your com­ment with due respect i will say that your state­ment is biased instead of that what a small child express­es through his sto­ry of life and there are a count­less of sto­ries around us and most of the reli­gious preach­es i have expe­ri­ences in my life are homo­sex­u­als and moles­ters and i have been molest­ed by a count­less of such peo­ple i will sug­gest u to kind­ly read it again and again and think about it being a neu­tral per­son its noth­ing about reli­gion its about a state of mind in our soci­ety that con­sid­ers a man with beard to be a pious per­son who can­not go wrong no one is tar­get­ing reli­gion any reli­gion but the com­mon men­tal­i­ty that makes these wrong peo­ple to be con­sid­ered Nobel with all of their worst deeds it is all about to be care­ful from every1 even if its qari sahab and if its qari sahab to do an act of wrong he is respon­si­ble for it and there isn’t any lever­age for such person.i am high­ly dis­ap­point­ed by your com­ment. again par­don me but truth is bit­ter then a lie.

  4. I am total­ly agree with Shariq’s com­ment. Mr. Hus­nain instead of giv­ing sense­less com­ments can you just give an answer to those chil­dren who are actu­al­ly been molest­ed by these Qari sahab’s.…… Can you give any proof to your accu­sa­tion “malafide inte­nions”. If not then try to think and accept the real­i­ty.

  5. My mar­riage failed because I sup­pressed myself and there­by wasn’t able to express my feel­ings open­ly.

    The most painful sen­tence, as I know many mar­riages remain safe despite of all these sit­u­a­tions, only women suf­fer to save them­selves by the stig­ma of divorce. Bear­ing a child or chil­dren is not an issue but to have ful­ly sat­is­fied life becomes a mirage. Some find hid­den doors to vent their pent up emo­tions.

    Who is the real cul­prit?

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6 Responses

  1. its heart touch­ing some­times i want to shout at the dou­ble stan­dard of soci­ety that enjoys it but do not accept it all i want is an accep­tance noth­ing else.i am thank­ful to u guys to raise the voice.

  2. This above sto­ry is based on malafide inten­tions.. and just to gain some world­ly posi­tion by oppos­ing reli­gion, par­tic­u­lar­ly Islam…and writer also failed to main­tain bal­ance in his story.…in fact, i observed that most of the peo­ple who are attached with Laal­tain have spe­cif­ic agen­da of oppos­ing Islam…they dont know that they are being used by oth­er people…i would request all of them not to sell moral val­ues and your religion..and rather try to make bet­ter sys­tem here..contribute in a good way..you know reli­gion is not new in this world..and it is not going to be fin­ished by your vogue stances…just try to serve human­i­ty and try to become a good human.

  3. i am quite sur­prised to read your com­ment with due respect i will say that your state­ment is biased instead of that what a small child express­es through his sto­ry of life and there are a count­less of sto­ries around us and most of the reli­gious preach­es i have expe­ri­ences in my life are homo­sex­u­als and moles­ters and i have been molest­ed by a count­less of such peo­ple i will sug­gest u to kind­ly read it again and again and think about it being a neu­tral per­son its noth­ing about reli­gion its about a state of mind in our soci­ety that con­sid­ers a man with beard to be a pious per­son who can­not go wrong no one is tar­get­ing reli­gion any reli­gion but the com­mon men­tal­i­ty that makes these wrong peo­ple to be con­sid­ered Nobel with all of their worst deeds it is all about to be care­ful from every1 even if its qari sahab and if its qari sahab to do an act of wrong he is respon­si­ble for it and there isn’t any lever­age for such person.i am high­ly dis­ap­point­ed by your com­ment. again par­don me but truth is bit­ter then a lie.

  4. I am total­ly agree with Shariq’s com­ment. Mr. Hus­nain instead of giv­ing sense­less com­ments can you just give an answer to those chil­dren who are actu­al­ly been molest­ed by these Qari sahab’s.…… Can you give any proof to your accu­sa­tion “malafide inte­nions”. If not then try to think and accept the real­i­ty.

  5. My mar­riage failed because I sup­pressed myself and there­by wasn’t able to express my feel­ings open­ly.

    The most painful sen­tence, as I know many mar­riages remain safe despite of all these sit­u­a­tions, only women suf­fer to save them­selves by the stig­ma of divorce. Bear­ing a child or chil­dren is not an issue but to have ful­ly sat­is­fied life becomes a mirage. Some find hid­den doors to vent their pent up emo­tions.

    Who is the real cul­prit?

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