When born, man grows up within his environment that affects him in numerous unintentional ways. His ability to assume things develops and he constructs an endless bridge with his intentions and emotions that unknowingly become the reason of his great fall. Let me fill you in with my intention of writing this all. The kind of environment we live in constitutes the most vital factor in shaping the dangling society of ours. Our assumptions are our fears that live within us, and our life constitutes the bridge with our death as the final great fall.
Breathe to be suffocated
Smile to be vowed
Live to be buried alive
Respect to be disgraced
All of this seems quite common and contemporary. It is something that is part of us throughout our traditions or I would say – society. Sad but true that we are only living and feeling better by making others worse. Our self-created society is growing with the aid of the power of suppressing the mild and feeble. The social, economic and verbal discrimination is opening the avenues to an endless war of standards and the major victim of this discrimination is after all, women.
For my people have abandoned me
Like migrating birds they have gone
I am destroyed, bitter is my lament
Smoke lies within like a shroud.
Blood flows as the river does
The lamenting of women
I will be no more
It would be unjust to ignore this dilemma which is trending the hearts of women more, day by day. This is a male-dominant society and so are its traditions. In the not very distant past it was common that Arabs buried girls alive. Nowadays it is still the very same. There was a time in previous centuries when girls were considered a symbol of darkness and depression. With kingdoms emerging, heads of societies, soldiers, kings, and leaders were only men. But it was illogical to ignore women upfront, so a new tradition developed, probably among the Greeks that earlier used to suppress women. Late till the Egyptians came up and a female pharaoh was seen, the majority of thoughts did not appreciate gender equivalence. This however, is dating back with the history of ignorance. People might have upgraded their thoughts but the mindset and values in this society have actually not changed.
The freedom to live with one’s desires and to be able to choose without external pressures has never been acknowledged for the women in society. I have seldom visited a house where a boy is not preferred over a girl. That is where the problem begins.
This society which claims to protect the delicacy of women snatches their freedom of expression. Shrill voices, delicacy, politeness, and shyness are words associated with women. They are not wrong, but one way or the other they force women to be nothing but only these.
I have seen this happening in my own family where even educated women are not allowed to speak their hearts out. It all suited the women of early times but not today.
A family with a girl holds the right to restrict her completely. The only reason that I have come across is the fear of losing respect and dignity, which forces parents to behave in this way.
This society has made discrimination so widespread that it deprives girls from their freedom of expression. Eyes are ready to follow a woman even before her shadow. When it comes to career selection a girl is always a future doctor irrespective of her intelligence and interest. When it comes to going out alone a girl is always feared to be followed. When it comes to expression a girl is always her mother’s tongue. When it comes to decision-making a girl is always her father’s decision. When it is the time to choose a life-partner a girl is her parents’ agreement.
Has anyone seen these rules written anywhere? Then why are they followed after all? We do not want to know why but we only praise our traditions.
Many problems will become solved from the day on when boys will not be preferred over girls. Until now, however, a girl’s opinion is seldom taken into account even if she gets married.
When a woman starts to realize their restrictions and baseless relations, it breaks her completely in the end. A woman in our society is dead before her death. The only thing she lives with is her power to hope for the possibility of her freedom, but eventually she ends up lost within herself.
The day we ignore all the customs and live equally, that day will be the victory of women’s emotions over their assumptions.
Live and let live!