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8 Basic Things Every Pakistani Should Know About Transgender People

30 نومبر، 2015

Their sto­ries are reg­u­lar­ly dis­tort­ed by the media, their exe­cu­tion­ers are sel­dom found, and nev­er brought to jus­tice, they are writ­ers, artists, vocal­ists, wait­ers, chefs and much more than that, they are humans with feel­ings, souls and brains. But, their cru­el­ly vio­lat­ed dead bod­ies are nev­er dif­fer­ent from each oth­er —they echo the same bru­tal­i­ty and hatred which soci­ety holds against them.

We call them, Transgenders—but they are one of us. We hard­ly encour­age those among us who have the suf­fi­cient aware­ness that being a Trans­gen­der does­n’t mean belong­ing to a third gen­der. The notion is impor­tant because it is the root cause of all the abuse, harass­ment and hatred against them.

Gen­er­al­ly, all of us are good at heart and we mean no harm to oth­ers. Yet, when it comes to hav­ing a con­ver­sa­tion, rais­ing or befriend­ing a trans­gen­der, most of us are clue­less or we end up hurt­ing their sen­ti­ments unin­ten­tion­al­ly. Some­how, we become a con­trib­u­tor to the afore­men­tioned hatred, harass­ment and abuse against trans­gen­der com­mu­ni­ty.
‘Inter­na­tion­al Trans­gen­der Day of Remem­brance’ is cel­e­brat­ed on 20th Novem­ber every year, with a spir­its to erad­i­cate hatred and raise aware­ness regard­ing Trans­gen­ders. Few of the impor­tant aspects of this day are:

1- Why do we hold Inter­na­tion­al Trans­gen­der Day of Remem­brance?

It all start­ed after the grue­some mur­der of Rita Hes­ter, a trans­gen­der from Boston. Novem­ber 20th is the day of mourn­ing for trans­gen­der com­mu­ni­ty as they remem­ber Rita Hes­ter and the hatred against Trans­gen­ders on this day. Rita was bru­tal­ly mur­dered on Novem­ber 28th, 1998 and as expect­ed, her killer was nev­er brought to jus­tice. She was nev­er tak­en seri­ous­ly. Since, 1999, Novem­ber 20th marks an obser­vance of Inter­na­tion­al Trans­gen­der Day.

2- What do we mean by “Trans­gen­der” ?

Trans­gen­der is an umbrel­la term for per­sons whose gen­der iden­ti­ty, gen­der expres­sion or behav­ior does not con­form to that typ­i­cal­ly asso­ci­at­ed with the sex to which they were assigned at birth.

Accord­ing to Amer­i­can Psy­cho­log­i­cal Asso­ci­a­tion, Trans­gen­der is an umbrel­la term for per­sons whose gen­der iden­ti­ty, gen­der expres­sion or behav­ior does not con­form to that typ­i­cal­ly asso­ci­at­ed with the sex to which they were assigned at birth. They can relate to the oppo­site sex organs but not their own.

3- Do you need med­ical pro­ce­dures to call your­self a Trans­gen­der?

Sur­gi­cal pro­ce­dures are a part of being a trans­gen­der. How­ev­er, they aren’t manda­to­ry. For instance, a man who nev­er iden­ti­fied with his sex­u­al organs and gen­der expres­sion but with female sex­u­al organs and fem­i­nine gen­der expres­sion, would still remain a trans­gen­der even if he nev­er goes under the knife for any pro­ce­dures. Also, it will be offen­sive to use the pro­noun “Him” unless the per­son allows for it.

4- Is it okay to ask trans­gen­der per­son whether or not they have gone through a sur­gi­cal pro­ce­dure or med­ical treat­ment?

Is it okay to ask about the size and shape of your fel­low’s sex organs when you don’t have an inti­mate friend­ship with them?. No. It’s not okay to ask this ques­tion from a trans­gen­der per­son, unless they real­ly want to talk about it.
By ask­ing this ques­tion, you are indi­rect­ly ask­ing them to val­i­date what they tru­ly feel as a spe­cif­ic gen­der. So, it’s not ok.

“It is offen­sive that so many peo­ple feel that it is okay to pub­licly refer to trans­sex­u­als as being “pre-op” or “post-op” when it would so clear­ly be degrad­ing and demean­ing to reg­u­lar­ly describe all boys and men as being either “cir­cum­cised” or “uncir­cum­cised.”
― Julia Ser­a­no

5- Types of Trans­gen­der peo­ple?

There are many types we need to know about. How­ev­er, the basics include:

Female to Male FTM/F2M : a per­son who has under­gone med­ical treat­ments to change their bio­log­i­cal sex (female sex­u­al organs). These are also known as, Trans Men.

Male to Female or MTF/M2F: a per­son who has under­gone med­ical treat­ments to change their bio­log­i­cal sex (male sex­u­al organs). Also known as, Trans Women.

Trans­sex­u­al : When the per­son goes through a sex change oper­a­tion or med­ical ther­a­py. As men­tioned in both cas­es above.

Gen­derqueer: (1) an umbrel­la term used to depict indi­vid­u­als whose sex­u­al ori­en­ta­tion falls out­side of the gen­der bina­ry; (2) a per­son who rec­og­nizes self as both a male and female or none. Some gen­der queers don’t iden­ti­fy them­selves as trans­gen­der though.

Trans­ves­tite: a per­son who dress­es as a mem­ber of oppo­site bina­ry gen­der (“cross-dress­es”) for any of numer­ous rea­sons, includ­ing unwind­ing, fun, and sex­u­al sat­is­fac­tion; fre­quent­ly called a “cross-dress­er,” and reg­u­lar­ly mis­took for “trans­sex­u­al” -

6- Is there a dif­fer­ence between sex­u­al ori­en­ta­tion and gen­der iden­ti­ty?

Sex­u­al ori­en­ta­tion is sim­ply our sex­u­al and roman­tic incli­na­tions com­bined for men, women or both. A pan-sex­u­al would be a per­son whose sex­u­al and roman­tic incli­na­tions would be com­bined for men, women, her­maph­ro­dites or any oth­er pos­si­ble form of gen­der and sex­u­al iden­ti­ty. Bisex­u­al and het­ero­sex­u­als are oth­er forms of sex­u­al ori­en­ta­tion.

Sex­u­al ori­en­ta­tion is sim­ply our sex­u­al and roman­tic incli­na­tions com­bined for men, women or both. A pan-sex­u­al would be a per­son whose sex­u­al and roman­tic incli­na­tions would be com­bined for men, women, her­maph­ro­dites or any oth­er pos­si­ble form of gen­der and sex­u­al iden­ti­ty. Bisex­u­al and het­ero­sex­u­als are oth­er forms of sex­u­al ori­en­ta­tion.

Gen­der iden­ti­ty on oth­er hand, is the extent to which you iden­ti­fy with your sex­u­al anato­my and act accord­ing to soci­etal expec­ta­tions from that par­tic­u­lar sex­u­al anato­my. A per­son born with female sex organs could iden­ti­fy her­self or feel and func­tion like a female, the same per­son may feel and func­tion like a man despite of the female sex­u­al organs, or the same per­son can not iden­ti­fy with any of the gen­ders. In any case, it would be that per­son­’s gen­der iden­ti­ty.

A trans­gen­der per­son can be a homo­sex­u­al, het­ero­sex­u­al, bisex­u­al or pan-sex­u­al, depend­ing upon the sex­u­al ori­en­ta­tion pre­ferred. Being a trans­gen­der would be gen­der iden­ti­ty for that per­son.

7- Is being trans­gen­der a men­tal dis­or­der?

Accord­ing to Diag­nos­tic and Sta­tis­ti­cal Man­u­al for Men­tal Disorders‑5, a men­tal dis­or­der caus­es sig­nif­i­cant stress, dis­turbs pro­fes­sion­al, aca­d­e­m­ic and per­son­al life. Most of the trans­gen­der peo­ple do not expe­ri­ence such kind of dis­tress, so they won’t be real­ly diag­nosed as hav­ing a men­tal dis­or­der. The man­u­al describe the con­di­tion as “Gen­der Dys­pho­ria” which lit­er­al­ly means a con­fu­sion and feel­ing of incon­gru­ence with one’s assigned sex. How­ev­er, Amer­i­can Psy­cho­log­i­cal asso­ci­a­tion main­tains that the diag­no­sis per­sists from the point of care, as soci­etal dis­crim­i­na­tion, vio­lence against Trans­gen­ders, harass­ment and bul­ly­ing caus­es them a lot of stress, anx­i­ety, depres­sion and oth­er men­tal dis­or­ders.
So, it’s not a dis­or­der but yes, they are prone and vul­ner­a­ble to men­tal dis­or­ders because of the hatred, abuse and dis­crim­i­na­tion they go through. lack of resources, oppor­tu­ni­ties and tol­er­ance for trans­gen­ders makes it hard for a trans­gen­der to live a nor­mal life in our soci­ety.

8- How can we ben­e­fit the Trans­gen­der com­mu­ni­ty?

Rais­ing and gain­ing aware­ness is the key. By becom­ing an ally for them, we can reduce the fac­tors which con­tribute to high­er mur­ders and sui­cide rates among them—bullying, dis­crim­i­na­tion, sham­ing etc.

Using pro­nouns or names that are pre­ferred by the trans­gen­der per­son, as this often caus­es con­fu­sion on our part. If in doubt, ask­ing is always bet­ter than assum­ing.

Famil­iaris­ing our­selves and oth­ers with local, provin­cial and inter­na­tion­al laws which pro­tect the rights of trans­gen­der com­mu­ni­ty. Also, know­ing that trans­pho­bia and Trans-misog­y­ny exists, would help to stop and spot it.

“When the Major­i­ty of jokes made at the expense of trans peo­ple cen­ter on “men wear­ing dress­es” or “men who want their penis­es cut off” that is not trans­pho­bia- it is trans-misog­y­ny. When the major­i­ty of vio­lence and sex­u­al assaults omit­ted against trans peo­ple is direct­ed at trans women, that is not trans­pho­bia- it is trans-misog­y­ny.”
‑Julia Ser­a­no

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